Insight into Self-acceptance

Self-Acceptance Enhances Relationships

The positive impact of learning self-acceptance is that we are able to accept others more.

When we do not judge ourselves harshly, we don't tend to judge others harshly either.

When we have patience with the parts of ourselves we don't like, we will have patience with aspects of others we don't like.

When we don't accept our deepest desires and thoughts, and face our vulnerabilities, it is difficult to have close relationships.

To be intimate with another is to risk exposing the real 'me' to another.

Why am I afraid to tell you who I am? By John Powell

He explores ways in which we may adopt roles and play psychological games in order to protect ourselves from feeling insecure and unvalued.

If there is part of us that we would rather keep hidden, we put a barrier up around ourselves.

Having the courage to instead accept those parts will remove that barrier, and help us to deepen our relationships with family, friends and work colleagues in a healthy way.

In Thomas Harris' book : I'm ok, You're ok,' he describes four ways in which self-acceptance affects our relational style.

  • I'm Not OK, You're OK

This is saying that we are inferior to others.

We can be dependent upon others' approval of us to meet our deep needs – for security, value and worth.

Co-dependent relationships are very often one-sided and unhealthy.

  • I'm Not OK, You're Not OK

This response would be acceptable if we recognise 'there is no one righteous, not even me', (Rom. 3:10).

A negative attitude of critics may, rejection, self-pity and anger towards self, which we then project onto others, can create a wall around a person leading to isolation and distress.

This is not healthy.

  • I'm OK, You're Not OK

A person with this attitude can be arrogant and contemptuous, imagining themselves to be superior in every way.

Alternatively, they can be independent and self-sufficient, keeping others at arms length.

This is not healthy.

  • I'm OK, You're OK

This is the healthy way to relate to others.

When we value ourselves in spite of our weaknesses and faults – which is what self-acceptance is – we automatically communicate to others that they are also acceptable beings of value, just as they are, without pointing out their faults and weaknesses.

People who relate in this way are comfortable in their own skin and comfortable with others – even when there are differences and disagreements.

In order to enjoy good and healthy relationships it's important we receive the grace of God to accept who we are and live out the bodily principle, 'I'm OK, You're OK.'

Personal reflection

Sometimes when things go wrong, which for me can be quite often! We will retreat back into our shells, our own protective little bubbles where no one can hurt us. At the time we always believe that's the best thing to do. However, in my experience this means avoidance and more emotional issues!

As we mature in our lives, we made little changes as we begin to understand more about ourselves, and what we want to achieve. I suppose you could say that we are more laid back, willing to accept ourselves as well as the people we live with!

I think that this post reflects accurately on our culture and society today…

Now it's time for you to be honest and reflect upon yourself and relationships that you are involved in, believe in yourself, no ones perfect!

Creativity inspiration · Mindful colouring

A Non-Judgemental Attitude

While you are Colouring take a moment to pause and observe the picture before you.

Notice the colours you have chosen and the aspects of the pattern that your mind is drawn to.

Allow the picture to be just as it, without wanting or needing things to be different.

If you notice critical or judgemental thoughts, this is not a problem.

Simply recognise that they have come into your mind, and then return your attention to the present moment, to the shapes and colours that you can see, and your breath as you breathe in and out.

With kindness and respect, simply observe what lies before you in this moment.

Insight into Self-acceptance

A Healthy Self-Love

It may not be easy, but we can learn to fully accept things about ourselves that we don't necessarily like.

Self-love is not about vanity, selfishness, egocentricity or arrogance.

It is about caring for ourselves, knowing and taking responsibility for both our strengths and weaknesses.

When addressing the object of self-acceptance, as the focus is on 'self' the danger is that we can become too self-centred.

It is important to have a healthy balance between our attitude to self and our attitude to others.

After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, that as Christ does the church (Eph. 5:29).

Yet we are able to 'love one another' (John 13:34)

A healthy self-love is not about putting our own needs first.

Being preoccupied with ourselves means taking our eye off God, and turning off a desire to extend unselfish love to others and live a life to the glory of God.

As we continue this journey, we need to spend time examining 'self', keep the following scripture in the back of your mind.

Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends. (John 15:13)

Personal Reflection:

The hustles and bustles in life mean that all too quickly we can become engulfed into the manic mania in which we live.

The everyday stresses that impact our thinking, our emotions, and how we conduct ourselves in society.

Do you have a stressful job, deadlines to meet, meetings to attend?

Are you reliant on public transport, and it always being late, and then the road works! Errr! How annoying.

And this has all happened first thing in the morning.

When have we checked in with ourselves or asked a friend if they need some help getting to work, or help carrying something from their car as they have lots.

Do we recall someone vulnerable that person may need someone to talk too, grab a coffee with them and actively listen to them.

Most probably not. We haven't the time. We are too busy in our own little bubbles to look at for others.

This Self-Love is something I've not really done before. It's made me stop and think…

There's so much more to life that I'm yet to see, as I've become a spectator of life, just watching the world go round, and not actively engaging in any opportunities that have come before me.

My invisible illness seems to have swallowed me up, then spat me out, and now I'm ready to try and build a fruitful life for myself and my family, and friends.

What's you view point?

Cardmaking, scrapbooking · Creativity inspiration

Are you going to Disneyland?

Then this is for you.

Princess themed Die cut images. Die Cut means to cut to precision.

They are great for card making or for a travelling journal, or even scrapbooking. Let your imagination flow.

What can you do with them:

You could create a personalised book/card to your child about going to Disneyland. Or are you returning from Disneyland then this is great for your memories-photo books or albums or your scrapbook.

Cardmaking, scrapbooking · Creativity inspiration

The story behind this delightful handmade card selection…

The inspiration behind this cute collection, came from my youngest daughter, who is 9years old. She inherited the nickname 'baby bear' from her auntie. This always made both her and me smile!

With this in mind, I tried to recreate the warmth and loving relationship into this collection.

The embellishments represent the richness and purity of love between a mother and child, child and auntie.

I hope you enjoy them as much as I did in creating them for you!

Creativity inspiration · Pet memorabilia

Pet memorabilia πŸΎπŸΎπŸ’•

I wanted to share with you why these products are available within my crafting page. If you like, the story behind the product.

In June this year, 2017, we lost our beloved Chocolate Labrador at the age of 4, he was the most loving and loyal companion in our family. Our fur baby.

My whole family were grieving for him.

It was a sudden unexpected loss.

He went to the vets as he was off his food and was coughing.

To cut the story short, he had swallowed something sharp and it had penetrated his stomach through into his lungs. He died.

Everyone was in shock. Our beloved 'Monty' who had never been ill was gone. A reflection of how we sometimes take for granted that our fur babies will be with us till their old age,

I created some images so our happiness memories could be captured of our time with him.

So as well as his urn with have a framed picture of him, a variety in fact.

Happy memories.

These pictures are now available to you too.

  • You send me digitally a photo of your fur baby, (and I'll do the rest.)

  • If you want text added please send me that too.

  • Your picture/image will be framed A4 in either black or white frame – you choose

  • Your framed picture will be posted to you within 2-3 days of your order.

  • All for £10 (UK)each framed image

* Please note I can do this for any of your pets: birds, dogs, cats, kittens, horse, fish anything!!

All I need is for you to send me through your photo, and any text.


Please email me with any questions I am happy to help!

At this distressing time, add some positivity, your happy memories 💕

Creativity inspiration · Mindful colouring

Mindfulness in Nature

What would it be like to colour outside?

If the weather is suitable and you are able to do so, you could try it.

You may choose to sit in the local park, in the outside space of a cafe, or in a garden perhaps.

Select somewhere with natural beauty and a peaceful energy for you.

When you reach this place, take some time to absorb your environment mindfully.

What colours, sounds, textures and scents around you?

When you decide to colour, allow these observations to inspire you.

Rest your attention upon certain colours that you see, and incorporate them into the picture you are Colouring.

Let Mother Nature be your muse.